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\n \n Redo Search\n \n

\n Clear filters\n

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{h}
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FAQ

How do I edit my submission?

\n Resubmit the form if you want anything edited & shoot me a message so I know to delete the old row. Or you\n can just let me know the update via contact info below.\n

\n\n

Can I help?

\n Thanks for asking! Maybe you can! Do you know how to code? I'm{\" \"}\n looking for collaborators!\n

\n\n

Why is the directory >70% male?

Great question! I think there are a couple reasons:

\n Date Me Docs came about as a practice in tech, rationalism, and EA communities, which are disproportionally\n male.\n
Men feel safer exposing themselves romantically publicly.
Women can get too much attention when they publicize that they are looking to date.

\n Date Me Docs, and the culture surrounding them are so new, but it seems like could be a reasonable state of\n affairs for men to be the ones to create and publicly post Date Me Docs, and for women to read them and\n contact the men they are interested in privately, sometimes with a simple message, and sometimes with a\n private version of a Date Me Doc. There have been women who initially made their Date Me Doc public, but then\n changed it to private when they got too much inbound attention.\n

\n I’d encourage women who feel safe to create and publicly share a doc to do so, and know that there is always\n the option to make it private later. On the other hand, this Bumble-like pattern where women remain private\n and message men could also be a healthy pattern. We shall see!\n

\n\n

Can I bring Date Me Docs to my community?

\n Yes!!! While Date Me Docs started in Tech/rationalism/EA, I think it would work well in a lot of nerdy or\n intellectual communities. Bring your friends to the party! Share it on social media!\n

\n\n

Press

\n \n Tired of Dating Apps, Some Turn to 'Date-Me Docs' (New York Times)\n \n
\n \n ‘Date Me’ Google Docs and the Hyper-Optimized Quest for Love (Wired)\n \n
\n \n Four ways to find love - without the apps (The Guardian)\n \n

\n\n

Contact

\n Contact me by email at:{\" \"}\n \n stevekrouse.dateme_contact@valtown.email\n \n

\n This site was made with ❤️ by Steve Krouse using{\" \"}\n Val Town{\" \"}\n (view the code).\n Please reach out with questions, feedback, or suggestions!\n

\n This service is provided free of charge. All I ask is to be notified if you find love. Or for your firstborn,\n Rumpelstiltskin style. Whichever comes first.\n

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\n Date thoughtfully\n

\n Date Me Docs are long-form, earnest dating profiles for romantic partners.\n

\n \n

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Submit Your Date Me Doc

\n\n

\n \n Name*\n \n \n

\n\n

\n \n Profile URL*\n \n

\n If you don't have a Date Me Doc yet, create one in Notion or{\" \"}\n Google Docs, and then copy its public link here.\n

\n \n

\n\n

\n Age\n \n

\n\n

\n Your Gender\n {[\"F\", \"M\", \"NB\"].map(gender => (\n <>\n \n \n {gender}\n \n \n ))}\n

\n\n

\n Interested In\n {[\"F\", \"M\", \"NB\"].map(gender => (\n <>\n \n \n {gender}\n \n \n ))}\n

\n\n

\n Location\n

\n If you don't see your location represented, request it to be added after you submit your doc.\n

\n \n {locations.map(location => (\n

\n \n \n {location}\n \n

\n ))}\n

\n \n\n

\n Location Flexibility\n \n \n \n \n \n

\n\n

\n Relationship Style\n \n \n \n \n \n

\n\n

\n \n Contact*\n \n \n

\n\n

\n \n Submit\n \n

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\n Thanks for your submission!

We hope you find love 🥰\n

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